LTC Bullet: LTC Tour Meets the Fearless Caregiver

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Westport, Connecticut (LTC Tour Mile 14,274; State #24)

LTC Comment: "Fearless Caregiver" Gary Barg has created an extraordinary resource for long-term caregivers across America. Details, pictures and a video interview after the ***news.***

*** TODAY'S LTC BULLET is sponsored by Claude Thau, a Master General Agent who helps LTCi producers nationwide. Claude is the lead author of Tillinghast Broker World Individual and Group LTCi Surveys. His mentoring skills help you build whichever market suits you best (individuals, executive carve-out, multi-life, affinity, financial institutions, referrals from other professionals, etc.). Claude has been actively involved in the State Partnership movement and has campaigned to allow independent review of LTCi claims. Test Claude by calling 800-999-3026, x2241 to discuss opportunities or ***

*** SUPPORT THE CENTER AND LTC TOUR. If you'd like to sponsor an LTC Bullet and reach thousands of experts on long-term care with your message, contact Damon at 206-283-7036 or He'll explain everything and schedule your sponsored Bullet. You can also have an advertisement on the Center for Long-Term Care Reform's highly regarded website at for no extra charge. Check it out and while you're there, take a close look at the wide range of information and resources available to everyone who visits the public site and to Center members with access to The Zone. For special, temporary, trial access to The Zone, email your request to ***

*** LTC GRADUATE SEMINAR online. First read the feedback that follows on our LTC Tour presentations; then return here. The LTC Tour programs are mini-versions of the full 8-hour Long-Term Care Graduate Seminar that you can take online in webinar format anytime and at your own pace. The cost is $225 but that includes a full year's individual membership in the Center for Long-Term Care Reform, with all the benefits accruing thereto: our daily email publications (one-a-day mental vitamins), access to The Zone (our password-protected website including the "Almanac of Long-Term Care", and full time access by cell phone and email to Steve Moses for Q&A. Check it out at Then contact Damon at 206-283-7036 or to enroll. ***

*** LTC GRAD SEMINAR is a hit on the road. Following is a sampling of feedback from a presentation by Steve Moses on June 23 in Milwaukee to U.S. Bank LTCi specialists on behalf of Gold LTC Tour sponsor OneAmerica.

"Well done. Thanks for taking a complicated topic and summarizing key components facing LTC financing."

"Excellent information that all producers and public policy makers need to be aware of."

"You changed my perspective on the reason behind the public’s attitude towards LTC planning. Keep up the fight!"

"Fantastic!! There is no doubt that every American should hear your presentation."

The following day, back in New Jersey, at the Long-Term Care Partnership's "LTC Consciousness Symposium" organized by Center for Long-Term Care Reform Regional Representative Michael Fitzpatrick, these were the responses to Steve's 2-hour, mini-version of the LTC Grad Seminar.

"Mr. Moses is very informative and right on target with his message on LTC."

"Stephen Moses—the real straight-talk express."

"Totally enjoyed his honesty."

"Information heard today is better than training some companies give their employees on LTC."

"Eye opening, common sense." ***


LTC Comment: Gary Barg's is a single point of entry for nearly everything long-term caregivers need: information, advice, compassion, encouragement, and support.

Gary, and brother Steven, learned about caregiving the hard way: they did it. They cared for an ailing grandfather. From the experience came Gary's commitment to make "meeting the needs of caregivers his life's work." Steven changed careers to join him in the mission.

Here's how Gary tells the story on the website:

"I heard it in her voice. She never asked me to return and help, but I knew by the distress in her voice that things were not as rosy back home as I had thought. The year was 1994, and I was living in Atlanta, Georgia. My mom had been primary caregiver for my Dad and my grandparents over the past few years and over those years, I would return home as often as possible to help in whatever way I could. But, this late August night, I heard something in her voice that made me realize that more was needed of me, and fast. I thought I would spend about a month in Miami, where my mom and the rest of my family lived; help my mom care for my grandparents and then return home to Atlanta. Simple, right?

"Not really. Within minutes of returning to Miami, I found myself wondering how my mom was able to do all she had been doing as a caregiver. It was in and out of doctors' offices, endless hours on the phone with insurance companies, midnight dashes to the hospital, life and death decisions, heartaches and stress. And we were not alone. Not by a long shot. We would find plenty of other people like us, rushing around trying to do the best for their loved ones with little or no information, but always with enough time to share whatever information they learned which they thought would be of value to fellow caregivers. We decided to do something to help others as they were helping us. The first issue of Today's Caregiver magazine debuted July fourth, 1995 (our own independence day), was born shortly thereafter and the "Fearless Caregiver" annual caregivers conferences began in 1998. We have met thousands of dedicated professional and family caregivers, interviewed over twenty celebrity caregivers and hopefully helped a few caregivers along the way. I know that the caregivers we've met have been of invaluable help to us as family caregivers.

"Even though we have been 'out here' for over 11 years, we know that this is just the beginning. We are proud to have been able to bring together some of the brightest and most caring people to write for and Today's Caregiver magazine and to speak at our conferences. We invite you to take advantage of their wisdom and e-mail us your questions, join our free internet newsletters and interact with the other caregivers visiting We welcome you to our home on the Internet, hope you stick around a while and look forward to helping you in any way possible."

The best way to learn about the resources available for caregivers through the Barg's enterprise is to visit There you'll find links to information about:

* Today's Caregiver magazine
* The inspiring (and free) Caregiver E-Newsletter
* Information channels on Alzheimer's, Bipolar, Caregiver Stories, Long Term Care, Medication Management, Mobility, Ovarian Cancer, Rural Caregiver, Schizophrenia and Technology.
* An online "forum" "For Caregivers, About Caregivers, By Caregivers" to raise and discuss issues and questions
* Fearless Caregiver Conferences

If you get a chance to attend a "Fearless Caregiver Conference," do it. I did. Here's some information about the conferences followed by pictures of the Fifth Annual Philadelphia Fearless Caregiver Conference held June 25, 2008 and a video interview with Fearless Caregiver CEO and Founder Gary Barg.


* How to become a fearless member of your loved ones care team.
* Tried and true "time-off techniques" for all caregivers.
* Expert advice for beating stress and depression.
* Hands-on advice from local caregiving experts.


8:30 am - 9:30 am: Registration in Exhibit Area

9:30 am - 11:15 am: Expert Question and Answer Panel: A panel of caregiving experts will answer audience questions and offer advice of their own on topics such as respites options, financial and legal issues, getting a parent to stop driving, Alzheimer's care, grandparent caregiving and depression stress management, and adult day services.

9:30 am - 11:15 am: Networking for Exhibitors

11:15 am - noon: Break in Exhibit Area

Noon - 1:30 pm: Lunch/Guest Speakers/Awards

1:30 pm - 2:30 pm: Dessert in Exhibit Area

2 :30 pm - 3:00 pm: Fearless Caregiver Training: Gary Barg will teach the attendees how to become a respected member of their loved ones care team, utilizing tools such as journaling, respite and the Reverse Gift List and learning to create a personal family care team.

I was privileged to attend and serve on the experts panel for the Philadelphia Fearless Caregiver Conference in June. The other panelists and I answered questions from hundreds of caregivers struggling with the emotional, financial and cognitive challenges of caregiving. There is so much to know, so much to pay for, and so little time to do it all. The questions and emotions truly poured out of this highly motivated audience.

Check out pictures of the conference and watch my video interview of Gary Barg at